Womanhood, Thirties and Why ageing is a Positive thing

19/10/2017

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This is not a post about suddenly waking up when your thirty and having everything in place, a wonderful home, successful career, model kids and the perfect relationship because at no age is that realistic or guaranteed. You don't just suddenly work everything out overnight, with each year you are still the same person but life experience does make you grow and give you insights you simple didn't have when you were younger.

As I got closer to the big 3 0 I actually didn't feel like I was letting go of anything, instead I was saying hello to a newer more reassured me. Yes it's true I don't have that dewy wrinkle-free skin you have when you turn twenty, my eyes are tired, areas of my body are not as firm as they use to be due to it gifting me with two amazing children but this body is mine and for the first time I am starting to own that.



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Having turned 33 a month ago I honestly feel in many respects now is the best time of my life, its by no means perfect, there are many dimensions of it that are chaotic and all over the place but me as a individual I feel good. I think with age you realise something, you don't need reassurance or acceptance from others to feel good, in fact the only person you need it from is yourself and during my late teens and early twenties this certainly did not come naturally.

I often feel in media today men are perceived to age well, we are constantly told how good looking people like Brad Pitt and George Clooney are but the same is not really said for women of the same age and why not? I honestly feel we come into our prime later in life and I loved what Lady Gaga said in her recent documentary that before she was thirty she was a girl but once she turned thirty she was a woman, I really resonate with that. Something inside me switched, I realised time is very precious and it shouldn't be wasted on what other people think, age has certainly instilled a real sense of worth that wasn't there before. That's not to say I don't still get down or upset is someone says something hurtful but I bounce back quicker these days.



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I feel the media also has some part to blame in us fearing turning thirty as if that is some kind of expiry date on our best physical years but I think many of us will agree in terms of personal style we look far better now than when we did when we were eighteen and making questionable fashion choices.

With age I feel we actually become feistier, we become more supportive of each other, we realise that equality is more important than ever and inequality cannot be tolerated, we strip away the naivety that we held with our teens and twenties, we learn from our mistakes and we multitask in ways we never expected before. Life I have realised is never going to be perfect but I certainly deal with stress a little better now and I have no qualms or issues about ageing, I truly believe we come into our own more than ever with each year that goes by. So don't fear the coming years, embrace them because ladies we only get better.

19 comments:

  1. This is a great post to read, just at the right time for me as I'm in my last year of my 20's now!

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    1. So glad you enjoyed it Jenna and seriously there is nothing to worry about - your thirties will be fantastic

      Laura x

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  2. There is certainly a lot to learn about this topic.
    I liike all of the points you made.

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  3. Great post. I agree. With age comes experience and confidence to deal with what life throws at you.

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  4. As a 39 year old woman I can say it gets even better! I feel way happier with myself than I did even a few years ago :-)

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    1. Thats sooo good to know :) I have to say it's really changed the way I feel about ageing and I think we just become more confident and happy within ourselves as time goes one

      Laura x

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  5. I'm in my thirties and agree with everything you've said here. I'm definitely a woman now, whilst my life isn't as I had planned when I was younger I'm happy and confident and know how to get what I want.

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    1. Yes exactly they - it's not always how you planned but as a person now is a good time, thirties certainly gives some empowerment

      Laura x

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  6. I know just what you mean, but for me it was hitting 40. I am loving everything about my 40s and the most confident I've ever been xx

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    1. Thats so good to hear Tanya!!! I'm looking forward to it

      Laura x

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  7. I love this post, super inspiring and uplifting. I am still in my early 20's but I am sure the older I get the wiser I will be too. You look lovely in these photos also! xx

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  8. I always wondered what the big deal about turning 30 was (Watching 13 Going On 30 as a teenager sparked my curiosity) and, even though I'm still 6 years away from being 30, I can totally understand why so many women love being in their 30s. Your twenties are just a big muddling mess where you continue your teenage years of caring too much about petty things and worrying when everything will work out in the end anyway. I've thrown away the plan for my 30s as I've now learnt life isn't going to go the way I expect but I'm also channelling my inner 30 year old in trying to let go of things that just don't matter.

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  9. Fab post lovely! I definitely feel sad that there is such a pressure for us, women, to have achieved so much by a certain age and then you've failed if you haven't by your "expiry date" I've been drafting a similar post on turning 34 as I feel as if it's crept up on me! You look AMAZING by the way lovely lady! x

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  10. Love this - I'm so much happier in my 30s. You couldn't pay me to be 22 again!!

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  11. I can genuinely say that the three years since turning have been the best for me. I know myself in a way I couldn't imagine in my twenties. Not that thrilled about turning 49 though 😬

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  12. I am well into my forties now but am definitely more confident with age

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  13. I love this post Laura. I definitely feel more confident with age and more able to let things go that don't really matter. x

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  14. Great post - I'm hoping things will only get better as they have so far!

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