Side Street Style: Let's talk about sleep (or lack of)

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28/06/2017

Let's talk about sleep (or lack of)


cute cat



Can we just be honest for moment and talk about sleep and how much it changes when you become a parent. Before kids you didn't even have a second through about going out on a Saturday and coming home in the early hours because your bed was yours and you can stay as long as you like. That is certainly not the case now, in fact each day I have a small sense of dread as we head into the evening because it often doesn't go how I planned with two young children one of which seems to avoid sleep like the plague.

My youngest who is nearly 2.5yrs has never slept solidly through the night, meaning from 8pm-8am, on good nights we have 1-2 wake ups on bad nights we have multiple wake ups or waking and not settling, we had a faze where he would wake up from 3am-6am and lately with the lighter nights despite blackout curtains he is often up much later than his bedtime, not due to lack of trying on our part - its hard!

When he was under 1 he was waking around 6 times a night so in reflection of that 2-3 times a night is not too bad, but when will it stop? When will I get to go into an actual deep sleep again? We have read all the books, we have tried new routines, we put him in his own bed and then when he wakes we co-sleep, I breast fed and care about his diet, I am trying but it's exhausting. I am exhausted of people telling me what I am doing right or wrong, the thing is there is no right or wrong because the one thing I have learnt when it comes to kids is that one size never fits all. Just because you have one child who sleeps is no guarantee the sibling will do the same which is what has happened in our case.  I used to complain a lot about it, now I try and accept this is the way it is right now because that helps to soften the blow each night and I do know this will not last forever.


bedroom


Living with the reality of a child who does not sleep through the night means that we have had to learn how to adapt to that and how to get the best sleep we possibly can regardless of it being broken each night. I know a lot of other mothers are in the same predicament as me and I wanted to share a few thoughts on things that have helped while we ride this wave of sleepless nights.

1. Invest in a really goods memory foam mattress that is supportive on your back and aids better sleep. You can read about the mattress we are using here. I feel that it's really important to make your bed as comfortable as possible, whether that means having an orthopaedic mattress or even an adjustamatic bed it's worth it.

2. Not drinking anything caffeinated before bed. There is nothing worst than heading upstairs for a few hours before our youngest wakes and not being able to drift off.

3. Making sure the room is the right temperature which I find is really important for a restful sleep.

4. Cutting down on noise pollution, so making sure all the windows are shut, our phones are switched off and all appliances are turn off.

5. Making our bedroom a place of calm with no distractions or clutter. We have minimised our bedroom a lot lately, removing any clutter and simplifying things.

I do live in hope that my youngest sleep issues are going to get better and we will continue to try different things in the hope that they help but my main goal is simple to work around that and get as much as sleep as I possibly can because either way it will sort itself out in the end.


siblings


7 comments:

  1. Lack of sleep is awful, probably the worst thing I have ever experienced. Great tips and I totally agree with the bedroom being a place of calm with no noise pollution and the right temp.

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    1. I know right, sleep deprivation is the worst

      Laura x

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  2. I couldn't function without sleep (used to work nights so know a little about sleep disruption). I don't know how you do Laura! Some great tips here, a great mattress is a must. A milky drink at bedtime can also help. Also getting off the technology and having a wind down routine.

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    1. Oh wow working nights must of been hard Mellissa

      Laura x

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  3. I am now missing that silent sleep when I used to sleep for many hours in the childhood. Now, the lack of sleep is something around. Great post...it speaks about the reality.

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    1. Yeah I know what you mean, I long for days of deep sleep but I'm managing and thats what matters

      Laura x

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  4. Snap!! We are still struggling with E's sleep nearly two years on. It's been torture and something that will take me years to recover from as we're still nervous wrecks when it comes to bedtime as we still never ever know if we'll be able to eat dinner before she wakes for the first time that night- barely in mind she can still take up to 2 hours to go to sleep in the first place! Totally with you on this post...the only thing we can do is make peace with it otherwise the stress of it doesn't help anyone oh and have hope as you say, that some day these little people who we adore will sort themselves out! Oh to have more than 3 hours uninterrupted sleep hey! x

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